Saturday, 10 January 2009

Did John Travolta's weird faith seal his son Jett's fate?

Did John Travolta's weird faith seal his son Jett's fate?

By Richard Price
Last updated at 9:31 AM on 10th January 2009

As he struggles to come to terms with the sudden and terrible death of his only son, John Travolta is no doubt grateful for the all-enveloping support of his fellow Scientologists.

Losing a child is an unbearable prospect for any parent. Having to cope with such a loss while countless millions around the globe gawp at your suffering is beyond comprehension.

When you are a Scientologist, however, different rules apply. Or at least they are supposed to. As an 'Operating Thetan' on the fifth level of enlightenment, Travolta should not be concerned with such trifles as mortality.

Members of the Travolta family

Family tragedy: John Travolta with his daughter Ella, son Jett and Wife Kelly Preston

After all, according to Scientology's founder, L Ron Hubbard, the human body is nothing more than a vessel for drifting alien spirit.

It may sound like balderdash to most (and this, it should be noted, is one of the more believable aspects of the bizarre faith) but for Travolta and hundreds of thousands of fellow Scientologists, it is the truth and an undoubted source of comfort.

The death of 16-year-old Jett Travolta, however, has shed a new and distinctly unflattering light on the beliefs which are so fundamental to his parents' lives.

Jett, who died of a seizure at the family's holiday home in the Bahamas last weekend, had suffered from ill health throughout his all too brief life.

His parents controversially blamed a rare condition called Kawasaki disease, but according to doctors the syndrome has never been linked with seizures before.

L Ron Hubbard, creator of the Church of Scientology

Creator: The late L Ron Hubbard, creator of Scientology and science fiction writer, who died in 1986

A far more likely explanation, many believe, is that Jett suffered from autism. The teenager, who was virtually mute, displayed many of the classic symptoms of the condition, which causes nearly a third of sufferers to develop seizures in adolescence.

Scientology, however, does not recognise autism as a valid condition. Its exponents believe all psychiatric and neurological disorders are psychosomatic and sufferers are exhorted to shun medication, relying on a course of vitamins and minerals instead.

It is a hugely controversial belief which detractors claim has caused many deaths, as well as ruining the lives of thousands of mentally ill individuals who have been drawn into Scientology.

This has raised a number of questions about the circumstances of Jett's death and whether more could have been done to save his life.

A further number of discrepancies have been raised in the timeline of the boy's death. Investigating officers have stated that Jett's body had been left unattended for ten hours before he was found. A spokesman for the Travolta family vehemently denies this, claiming that the teenager was cared for round-the-clock by two nannies.

The man who found Jett close to death on the bathroom floor, Jeff Michael Kathrein, was one of these nannies. Despite his position of great responsibility - in his latter days Jett was suffering grand mal seizures twice a week - Kathrein has no apparent childcare or medical qualifications.

In fact, his day job is ostensibly as a photographer, running a small business with his wife.

So why was he given the responsibility of looking after Jett? He is a fellow Scientologist, sharing the Travoltas' outlandish belief that Thetans were imprisoned on Earth 75 million years ago by an evil alien dictator called Xenu.

It's the wild allegations which have long surrounded Scientology, coupled with repeated damning testimonies from former church members, which raise such disturbing questions about the very nature of Scientology.

And in the case of Jett Travolta, there are many who believe he would still be alive today but for his parents' slavish adherence to their religion's controversial beliefs about mental health and neurology.

In their defence, the Travoltas have stated that Jett was on medication designed to control or prevent seizures but was taken off it after a doctor advised them it had become ineffective.

And there is no dispute that the Travoltas are convinced their guru L Ron Hubbard (or LRH as they reverently know him) was correct in damning conventional mental health professionals as 'psychs' - deeply unethical individuals who willfully cause untold damage to their patients.

On Kelly Travolta's personal website there is a prominent photograph of her taking part in a hate rally against psychiatry. (Sample slogan: 'Psychiatrists create stigma and harm children.')

Yet despite their refusal to contemplate the prospect that Jett was autistic, many others were not so reticent.

 David Miscavige, Chairman of the Board of the Religious Technology Centre and leader of the Scientology religion

Powerful: David Miscavige, leader of the Scientology religion and close friend of Tom Cruise - he was the best man at the actor's wedding to Katie Holmes

John Travolta's older brother, Joey, is understood to have urged the couple for years to recognise their son's condition. While refusing to go public on the subject, he has gone on to make a film about the disorder, titled Normal People Scare Me, and founded the group Actors For Autism.

Last year, the Travoltas' neighbours, Tim and Patricia Kenny, proud parents of a five-year-old autistic girl, threatened to call in the social services over what they described as 'abuse' of Jett.

'Scientology is keeping Travolta from acknowledging his son's autism,' said Mr Kenny. 'They see it as a weakness.'

Mr Kenny claimed the family left the overweight Jett to sit in front of computer games all day, eating junk food.

Despite the criticism, the Travoltas have never acknowledged any suggestion that Jett may have been autistic. Instead, they have focused on Kawasaki disease, which, they claim, was brought on by overexposure to cleaning products, particularly carpet cleaner.

They have often talked publicly about the Scientology-based detoxification regime they used to cleanse Jett's body.

Yet to the vast majority of medical professionals, the notion that such an approach could be used to treat seizures is nothing short of laughable.

One person who can provide first-hand insight into Scientology's treatment of neurological disorders is Tory Christman, a member of the religion for more than 30 years until she left in 2000.

She was an epileptic using prescribed drugs to control her seizures but a few months after becoming a Scientologist she was told by an untrained 'medical officer' to come off her medication and take vitamins instead.

The cause of her problems, she was told, was not physical but psychosomatic, caused by people antagonistic towards her Scientology beliefs (or 'suppressives', as they are known by the church).

'I began having grand mal seizures at home, out on the street by myself and in the Scientology organisations - this was a living hell for me,' she says. 'This went on for three months. I was losing my memory due to all of the seizures.

'Finally, one morning in the shower, I knocked my front teeth out during a grand mal seizure. All this time my mother was begging me to go back on my medication and, after so much trauma, I realised that I wasn't going to live if I kept on doing this.'

Christman had the wisdom to ignore that aspect of Scientology and eventually left the religion, going on to become one of its more prominent critics. 'I continue to speak out in the hope that anyone with any physical problems stays miles and miles away from Scientology,' she says. 'I cannot tell you how many people I know who have died from lack of correct medical help.'

Criticising Scientology in this manner is no small gesture. People identified as suppressives frequently find themselves hit with expensive legal action, picketing and death threats.

L Ron Hubbard introduced the Fair Game law, which stated that such people could legitimately be subject to 'retaliation'. 'They may be deprived of property or injured by any means by any Scientologist without any discipline of the Scientologist, may be tricked, sued or lied to or destroyed,' he stated.

And while this law has since officially been rescinded, many witnesses insist the practice is very much in place - and is extended to family members and friends of people considered suppressive.

Undercover reporter Ian Halperin knows this only too well, as the only journalist to have successfully infiltrated Scientology.

He attended church meetings for more than a year and was even hooked up to the famous e-meter (effectively a rudimentary lie detector machine invented by LRH which measures minute changes in electrical resistance throughout the body).

Posing as an aspiring gay actor, he was informed that not only could Scientology help make him a star (with John Travolta and Tom Cruise cited as prominent success stories) but it could even 'cure' him of his homosexuality.

Tom Cruise and his wife Katie Holmes

Power couple: Tom Cruise, who has been a Scientologist for 18 years, introduced his wife Katie Holmes to the religion when they started dating in 2005

'When I went along for the test, I didn't have a care in the world but because I was posing as the nephew of a multi-millionaire who was interested in Scientology, I could see the dollar signs in their eyes,' he says.

'The test results apparently showed that I was "stressed, depressed, insecure, emotionally fragile and slightly unstable" - which was news to me. They said they could definitely help me with my homosexuality - even though I'm not gay - and that I needed auditing (Scientology-speak for religious therapy).'

When he finally revealed that he was a journalist, Halperin was granted an on-camera interview with a Scientology official, only to realise later that a shadowy figure was standing in the bushes filming him.

The subsequent premiere of his documentary on the religion had to be abandoned when it emerged at the last minute that the digital projector had been purposely infected with a number of computer viruses.

There followed a period of intense intimidation, relentless threatening phone calls and one very explicit death threat.

'Having spent the previous two years researching the subject, I was only too aware of their intimidation tactics - and a number of suspicious deaths - so I ended up in hiding for three months,' he says.

Another man who experienced the darker side of Scientology was Michael Pattinson, a prominent gay artist living in Los Angeles.

He actually sued the church, with John Travolta named as co-defendant, claiming that over the course of almost 25 years Scientology had promised to turn him straight and he had paid more than $500,000 in fees for 'auditing' to achieve this.

He says: 'After that, I took even more courses and spent even more money, just waiting for the day when I would also be cured of what they called my "ruin".'

In his 1998 lawsuit, Pattinson stated that Travolta 'knowingly participated' in Scientology's repressive regime. It went on: 'Defendant Travolta has known of Scientology's "gulags" and "concentration camps"... through both personal observation and information received from a certain former Scientologist, but has deliberately chosen to turn a blind eye to their existence.'

Pattinson eventually dropped the action after running out of money. By this point the church had ploughed over £1.5million into the fight against him and showed no signs of relenting.

These are extraordinary claims, and yet there is strong evidence to suggest that people are held in custody against their will by the church of Scientology - particularly those who suffer from mental illness.

The biggest of these causes celebres is Lisa McPherson, who suffered a very public breakdown but was taken out of hospital against doctors' wishes by Scientology handlers. Allowing psychiatric treatment - which she clearly desperately needed - was anathema to her fellow believers.

Seventeen days later she was dead, having been 'treated' for her psychosis with nothing more than vitamins and auditing. According to the coroner's report, Lisa was substantially underweight, severely dehydrated and covered in bruises and insect bites. There was evidence that cockroaches had been feeding on her body even before she died.

Criminal charges were brought against the church but once again they were eventually dropped after Scientology's astoundingly well-funded lawyers succeeded in discrediting the medical examiner.

This is not, however, an isolated case. Margarit Winkelmann, 51, walked fully clothed into the sea and drowned herself in January 1980 after she replaced her medically prescribed course of Lithium - a drug commonly used to control psychotic behaviour - with a course of vitamins and minerals recommended by the church.

Kirstie Alley
Lisa Marie Presley
Juliette Lewis

Famous followers: Actress Kirstie Alley, singer Lisa Marie Presley and singer/actress Juliette Lewis all follow the faith

Heribert Pfaff, 31, died of an apparent seizure at a prominent Scientology hotel after he was told to stop taking his epilepsy medication.

And Jeremy Perkins, a 28-year-old untreated paranoid schizophrenic raised as a Scientologist, murdered his own mother. The frenzied attack, in which he stabbed her 77 times, was carried out on LRH's birthday.

Scientology officials say these deaths are isolated incidents and in each case refuse to accept any blame.

Just as in the case of Jett Travolta, however, nobody will ever know if things might have turned out differently had conventional medicine - and wisdom - been allowed to help these poor benighted souls.

The least they deserved was a chance to recover, with genuine science used to help them rather than the unabashed quackery which Scientologists spout with such vehemence.

But with poster boys like John Travolta and Tom Cruise as the spearhead of its marketing campaign, Scientology is gathering hundreds of new members with every passing day.

Now Will Smith, the most successful black actor on the planet, is showing signs that he may be about to join them, having handed out vouchers to the crew on a recent film entitling them to free personality tests at their nearest Scientology centre.

He also donated a million dollars to a school which uses Scientology teaching methods.

And so the slick and inexorable expansion of this dangerous religious cult continues unabated, helped on its way by the endorsement of privileged celebrities who have long since parted company from the reality of everyday life.

Meanwhile, all around the world at this very moment, thousands more children whose families are Scientologists are at risk of suffering the same fate as Jett Travolta. But you won't hear the film stars talking about that.

Friday, 9 January 2009

Cheryl Cole

Cheryl Cole: How dumping my abusive boyfriend as a teenager gave me the strength to succeed in life

Last updated at 7:15 PM on 09th January 2009

She's the nation's sweetheart and every detail of her life is pored over by her adoring fans. But in an exclusive interview, she tells ANNABEL RIVKIN about her gritty upbringing and how it filled her with the determination that has helped her become the biggest name in showbiz. Nicola Roberts describes how she's learned to cope with her pale complexion and Nadine Coyle spills the beans on her break-up with Jesse Metcalfe, while Kimberley Walsh talks about having children with her long-time boyfriend and party girl Sarah Harding explains why she's looking forward to decamping to the country and buying an Aga...

Cheryl Cole

From scrapper in a tracksuit to nation's sweetheart: Cheryl Cole has charmed the public since her husband Ashley Cole's infidelity

CHERYL COLE

Cheryl Cole is the nation's sweetheart and she's finding it all a bit overwhelming. 'It's scary,' she says. She's used to attention but not of the adoring kind. Cheryl had the highest profile of the five girls long before she accepted the job of judging the last series of The X Factor.

In 2003, before Girls Aloud's first single, 'Sound of the Underground' had vacated the No 1 spot, Cheryl had got herself involved in a fracas with a Guildford nightclub loo attendant over whether or not the lollipops on display were complementary. She was charged with racially aggravated assault and, although cleared of the racist charge, was found guilty of assault, fined and given 120 hours of community service.

She has been involved in a number of 'celebrity feuds', most notably with Charlotte Church and Lily Allen, and she married the footballer Ashley Cole in 2006.

The ceremony and party ran over 40 pages in OK! magazine for a reported fee of £1 million, which must have made the allegations of his infidelity earlier this year all the more humiliating.

A 22-year-old hairdresser sold her story, claiming to have had sex with a rampagingly drunk Ashley. Cheryl removed her wedding ring, lost two stone, looked stoic a lot, replaced her wedding ring and issued a statement saying that she would 'not let this woman destroy our marriage'.

Cheryl Cole arrives at the ES photo shoot looking tired but freshly scrubbed, and orders a full English breakfast that she works her way through while her hair is being done. On her wedding finger floats a vast yellow diamond that looks too heavy for those delicate little paws.

It was an anniversary present. She is 5ft 3in and slender rather than stress-skinny as she was over the silent summer months when, it seems, she was repairing her marriage. I ask her if married life is going well and she nods but bats away the question. She seems fed-up, either with me for raising the subject or with Ashley for obvious reasons. Or both.

In days gone by, the pages of Cheryl's interviews would turn blue because her language was so fruity, but now that she is a primetime favourite, she does not swear. Neither does she talk about her marriage. 'I always thought that if you are open and honest then that's best, but it came back to bite us on the arse,' she says flatly. 'That's it now. My private life is going to remain that way.'

Cheryl Cole

Cheryl credits her role on the X Factor - and her relationship with Simon Cowell, right, as helping her overcome - the infidelity of her husband, footballer Ashley Cole earlier this year

It's strange because her natural tendency is to be completely open, so this new, guarded Cheryl is a slightly peculiar prospect. She's funny and chirpy and strong, and then she seems to remember herself and starts gazing quietly into her cup of tea. It's as though she's trained herself.

She and Ashley met at Princess Park Manor, a residential complex in North London where Cheryl shared a flat with Nicola, where Ashley had a bachelor pad and where Kimberley still lives. The Coles now live in a big house in Oxshott in Surrey. I ask her if Ashley likes her dressed up and glitzy or pared down and natural.

'I don't care,' she says wearily. I don't know if she's defiant or tired; one exacerbated by the other I suspect. 'We are always dressed up,' she sighs. 'Most people only put on make-up on a Friday night, but it's the opposite for us, so I just like to sit around the house with no make-up on and me hair tied up and some kind of face mask on, picking me nose.'

She was brought up in a council house in Heaton, a humble part of Newcastle. 'I love it when I go back there,' she says. 'I wind down the windows because there's a certain smell and it's the only place in the world that gives me that special feeling.'

She is the youngest of five. The first three are from her mother's first marriage and she and her younger brother Gary are from her mother's marriage to her father, who left when she was 11. 'Me oldest brother, Joe, has got five kids, which is amazing, and he works at Nissan,' she says.

Girls Aloud

Girls Aloud: From left to right Cheryl Cole, Sarah Harding, Kimberley Walsh, Nicola Roberts and Nadine Coyle

'Me sister Gillian has just had her second baby. Andrew is the next one, and me younger brother Gary has just left university and is the most adorable human being on this planet.' Andrew doesn't work and has appeared in court more than 50 times, mostly on charges of theft and vandalism. Cheryl is very close to Gillian, a single mother, 'but we have struggled a bit recently because the press have started on my family.

'They took pictures of her house and compared it to mine, but if you compare my house to most people's there is going to be a difference because I live a very fortunate lifestyle.'

The five girls competed in and won 2002's dimly remembered Popstars: The Rivals, so they are all competent, but if Nadine is the singer of the group then Cheryl is probably the dancer. 'I'm no Mariah Carey,' she says of her singing. 'I'm realistic about my ability.'

She went to a little '50p-a-go' dance school above the local supermarket and briefly attended a Royal Ballet School summer school but didn't like it. She won a Boots' bonny baby competition and appeared in a British Gas advert. School bored her and she left before taking GCSEs. She just wanted to perform. 'It was never, ever about being famous,' she says. 'I hear kids saying they want to be famous and I think, "You really don't." '

After school, she waitressed locally and, between 16 and 18, fell apart at the hands of a bad boyfriend. 'It was abusive and he was taking drugs and I wasn't very well,' she says. 'I was depressed and poorly for two years; really poorly mentally. I would wake up in the middle of the night and he'd be gone and every time you got a phone call you didn't know where he was going to be. I had to end it for my health. It was like a weird wave of strength.'

No wonder she got so thin and sad after the hairdresser's kiss-and-tell. It must have pushed all sorts of old buttons. I think she might be a bad picker.

It's been reported than Simon Cowell has offered her a 100 per cent pay rise to judge the next series of The X Factor. Her act, Alexandra Burke, whom she describes as 'an English Beyoncé', won the last series. Cheryl found the whole experience enormously rewarding, so much so that she's considering a career in management when she retires from performing. 'I didn't think it through when I was offered it,' she admits. 'I just thought I'd sit on the panel and have a laugh at the nut jobs. Then it escalated.'

The X Factor redressed the balance for Cheryl. She went from scrapping, tracksuit-wearing terror to wronged wife to nation's sweetheart. 'I had got myself into such a deep hole of badness - a lot of negative stuff,' she says. 'Till The X Factor there was this thing that I was the gobby bitch of the band. Yes, I'm opinionated, but I wasn't this person I used to read about. All these years I've guarded myself against criticism.' But for now at least, Cheryl Cole can do no wrong.

NICOLA ROBERTS

Nicola Roberts is a serious little thing. Naturally slender with bright white skin and copper-coloured hair, she is the baby of the band and was only 16 when it all began. Within months she had left school, become instantly famous, as only reality contestants can, and her parents split up.

So she was isolated, home was no longer home as she knew it, and people started on at her for being the only non-fanciable member of the band by virtue of being pale and red-haired. 'It didn't send me mad but I turned into a very deep thinker,' she says in her heavy Liverpool accent.

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Runcorn redhead: Nicola Roberts in a £1,900 Collette Dinnigan dress (020 7589 8897)

'I had to rationalise what was happening and it made me a solid person because I was having a bit of a negative time, but at the other end of the spectrum my career was flying. I think it kept me level-headed. At that age it's hard to keep hold of your own mind but I had to keep hold with both hands. I also learned about people. I learned that people can be arseholes.'

Nicola, 23, is a plain-speaking Scouser. She once described Gordon Brown as 'a little toad who talks shite', and on the news that, after years of Chris Martin singing the group's praises, Girls Aloud have been invited to support Coldplay at Wembley, she says, 'He has actually pulled his finger out, that's what he's done. All talk, no action and he's finally sorted it out.'

She's the oldest of four children, the youngest of whom is still only eight, and was brought up in Runcorn, in Cheshire. Her mother works in a primary school as a teaching assistant and her father is a car mechanic for Ford. 'People called me Cilla when I was little because I was always singing and writing poems,' she says.

She had just left school when they saw the advert for Popstars: The Rivals and her mother rang up and asked for an application form. When she made the band her mother said, 'You don't have to do this, you know. You are very young,' and Nicola was outraged. 'It pissed me off a bit,' she says now. 'I was like, "Are you jokin'? This is smacking me right in the face and you're asking me that?"' But looking back, I totally understand. It was her job to say that.'

Nicola moved into a flat with Cheryl in Princess Park Manor near Southgate, and the older girl (by two years) remains her protector. 'I think I'll always be a little sister to Cheryl,' she says. 'And if I need advice, it's Cheryl. We are very similar. I will go to Kimberley for advice but she's not a very deep thinker, she's more practical. For someone to help me they have to think like me, and Cheryl does.'

Nicola is living at the Mayfair Hotel at the moment. 'I'm a bit in limbo,' she says. She went out with her school boyfriend, Carl Egerton, from the age of 16 until the end of 2006. In early 2007 she met entrepreneur Carl Davis and they moved to a house she bought in Kent. They split up in May. 'Basically there is construction going on at the house so I moved to a hotel and now I don't want to go back,' she says. 'It's too far away from town. I'm 23 years old; why am I living all the way out in Kent on me own? What am I doing?' She is thinking that she will let her house and buy a place in London, possibly in Wapping because she loves the river.

She has a new boyfriend, Charlie Fennell, also 23, who sells boats in Dubai. 'After it ended with Carl, I felt I couldn't be arsed with this dating bullshit. It was too much hard work and it was stressing me out.' So she had a single summer, lounged around St Tropez for a few weeks and then met Charlie. 'Then I was like, this is not so hard, actually.'

She expects to spend most of this month in Dubai but she won't be sunbathing because she has come to terms with her colouring at last. 'I struggled with the idea of being this pale and it was a major issue for me, but your taste changes, doesn't it?' she says. She stopped plastering on the fake tan, swapped trashy magazines for fashion magazines and 'became more open-minded and worldly'.

The outcome of all this was her own make-up line for pale-skinned women, called Dainty Doll, which is sold through asos.com and the cosmetics company Jelly Pong Pong. She hopes to get it into major stores next year. There was an element of self-acceptance involved in this project and she has found it both liberating and exhilarating.

Nicola is a rather wry young woman who seems just to be starting to relax. Perhaps it is merely that she's growing up, something that most of us get to do in comfortable obscurity. 'I'm happy,' she says in her direct way. 'I feel more settled than I have ever felt, even though I don't want to live in my house. I feel content.'

NADINE COYLE

Nadine Coyle has something a little separate about her. While the other four sit in one room drinking tea and nibbling Pret sandwiches, Nadine, the voice and the legs of the band, sits on a sofa in the hotel lobby with her little sister Rachael. This could be because she wants to spend time with her sister without overcrowding the changing room, or it could be because she has become slightly disenfranchised from the other girls. She has, after all, moved to Los Angeles.

Nadine, 23, with her endless limbs and sweet Irish singing voice, was born and brought up in divided Derry. 'There were certain places you didn't go on certain dates,' she says in the strongest Irish lilt I have ever heard. 'I just grew up thinking that's how it was for everyone. I knew people who were killed and I knew there were bomb scares but you just lived your life.'

Nadine Coyle

When Irish eyes are smiling: Nadine Coyle in a Sea New York at Joseph dress, £385 (020 7243 9920)

Nadine is the middle of three girls. Her father used to run car dealerships and her mother is a powerful Catholic housewife who was convinced, when Nadine started with the band aged 17, that her daughter would be 'abused; that there would be sharks; that people would force cocaine on me. That was her idea of showbiz.'

By the time she got into the band, Nadine had already been a winner on the Irish equivalent of Popstars, and had been selected to be part of the band Six. She was disqualified when the producers realised she was 16 and the rules stipulated that contestants had to be 18.

During the heats of Popstars: The Rivals, Nadine struggled with the dancing. Her legs are astounding but her arms are long, too, and even her fingers seem to go on forever. At 17, she just didn't know what to do with all this length and felt awkward even trying. 'It took me a long time because I thought I looked ridiculous and dancing should make you look graceful. I can see the point now but I still don't think ladies should show their armpits.'

Nadine is marvellously genteel while managing to be simultaneously kittenish. This won her the attention of Desperate Housewives heart-throb Jesse Metcalfe (the show's male pin-up who played Eva Longoria's teenage lover), who she met in a bar in Sydney and who she went out with for 18 months until early last year when his drug problems and womanising became too much.


'I just thought, "I don't need this in my life,''' she says. 'I don't need to be on the front page talking about troubled this or troubled that. It all became a bit too Hollywood.'


For six months she has been going out with New York Giants American football hero Jason Bell. 'He's a very nice man,' she says, 'and I love a pretty boy. He's very stable and very smart. He went to Harvard and now that he's going into retirement from football he's going to be a financial advisor. I'm so impressed.'

Nadine herself has got a bit of a reputation for being financially astute because she has invested so heavily. She has a house in Barnet, Herts; a couple of rentals in Ireland, an apartment in LA, a house in Orange County (bought with her family), a bar in Florida called O'Malley's and another called Nadine's Irish Mist. 'I'm a bit dangerous with money,' she says. 'If I have it, I'll spend it. A few times in recent years, just through buying so much stuff as investments and dropping big sums here and there, I have left myself without enough money to buy a packet of chewing gum.'

Starting with her mother, 'the one with the power', Nadine persuaded both parents, her sisters and brother-in-law and nephews to move to California and went halves with them on a huge house in a gated community where her mother can bustle about and her nieces and nephews can play on the beach.

Nadine fell in love with LA four years ago when she went there for work. 'It was so tropical and yet Western,' she sighs in wonder. The rest of the clan moved there two years ago. Everyone is very happy, but it leaves Nadine with a hell of a commute to work in England. She is keen never to inflict her jet lag on the other girls.

While Sarah describes herself as 'hard work', Kimberley describes herself as 'the organiser', Cheryl describes herself as 'the mother', and Nicola describes herself as 'the baby', Nadine says that she is 'the singer', which seems to be coming at the group from a less emotional and more professional standpoint.

But then Nadine has the most stable family life so maybe she just needs the other girls less. 'I do most of the singing,' she says, 'always have done.' She would tend to go into the studio with the producer before the rest of the band and sing the demos to see which ones worked best. 'I can work at a quicker pace and just get stuff down.'

Nadine, for all her floaty Irish charm, is a lot savvier than she seems. She is perhaps the only one who might be a solo artist waiting to blossom. Trouble is, I think the others know it, too.

KIMBERLEY WALSH

Kimberley Walsh has the throatiest, smokiest Bradford-tinged speaking voice, which contrasts sharply with her honeyed, full-lipped looks. She is the organiser in the band. 'I'm the business one,' she says. 'I do all the accounts. I like to know the budget for everything and I sign everything off and they are all grateful because they are useless and they know they are.'

For the first couple of years of the band's life, when Louis Walsh was meant to manage them but didn't, Kimberley juggled the diary as well as the numbers and the girls would call her to find out where they were meant to be. 'Maybe it's my upbringing, but I would always rather know what is going on.'

She is one of those people who is good with money precisely because she lived through early financial crisis. 'It was quite tough because my dad's business went bankrupt when I was about five and everything changed. We begged, borrowed and stole to stay in the house but there were a lot of arguments and I could see the strain it put on my parents.'

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The organiser: Kimberley Walsh wears a Zac Posen dress, £1,475, available at Harvey Nichols (020 7235 5000)

Kimberley, 27, is the second of four children, and her parents divorced soon after the youngest, now 21, was born. 'Not very nice,' she says, 'but we kind of got it. We knew it was better that they weren't together and at each other's throats all the time.'

Her mother is a music teacher and the children grew up around a piano. 'We were a bit like the von Trapps,' she says. 'When things aren't so rosy, you find ways to brighten them up and singing was our way. I mean, to go to McDonald's was a massive treat for us.'

She was about to embark on her third year studying English and media at Leeds University when she got into the band, and she never completed her degree. She feels that, at 20, she was better equipped than some of the younger girls to deal with the shock of the situation. 'I was a bit hardened to it and a little bit more comfortable with myself but it still hit me pretty hard to be honest.'

Except for one incident, when she was photographed smoking a joint at a party - she apologised and said she had got caught up in the moment - Kimberley has been left alone by the tabloids, largely because hers is the steadiest love life in the band. She met her boyfriend, Justin Scott, five years ago when he was in the now defunct boy band Triple 8.

They live together in a house in Princess Park Manor (where Cheryl, Ashley and Nicola used to live), and Justin now works in record promotions and doesn't begrudge her any of her success. 'He's just weirdly understanding about it really,' she says. 'I am lucky. I am no more talented than he is. I've done no more hard work than he has but I've been luckier. He gets it.'

She hopes they will get married at some point. 'In that way he's just a big kid,' she says. 'He still doesn't feel that we're old enough to get married and I'm fine with that. I'd definitely like to have kids with him one day, so let's see.'

Kimberley says she lives a simple life. She is hoping to spend most of January in the sun but it will have to be somewhere with lots of activities because 'Justin is mixed race, so he's not really bothered about sunbathing and he gets bored out of his head'.

Kimberley and Cheryl are the two most maternal members of the band and both are protective of Nicola. Not only is Nicola the baby but she has been consistently mocked for being ginger and scowly. Chris Moyles in particular called her 'horsey chops' and a 'sour-faced old cow'.

Although he has since apologised, Kimberley is unamused. 'Why would you do that to a young girl?' she asks. 'It's hard enough being a teenager. We always told her she was unique. Now she feels happy and that's amazing. It's just growing up really; the only difference is that she's done it in front of people.'

Kimberley might go back to her von Trapp roots and pursue a career in musicals when Girls Aloud call it a day. In the meantime, Gary Barlow has roped her and Cheryl in to climb Kilimanjaro in February in aid of Comic Relief. Neither has done any training at all. 'I'm scared I won't get up it,' she says. If she approaches the mountain with customary Girls Aloud grit, she'll be the first to reach the summit.

SARAH HARDING

Sarah Harding's nickname is Hardcore Harding because she likes a party. She is also the tomboy of the band. 'What you see is what you get,' she says. 'One day I might smile at the camera and the next I might give it the finger.'

Sarah was a proper babe before the other girls got themselves all polished up and, at 27, she looks like a rather hard-faced angel. She was 20 when she entered Popstars: The Rivals.' I had been through the mill,' she says.

She was born in Ascot but moved to Stockport, in Cheshire, when she was 14. Her mother was a secretary and her father is a musician, but she hasn't spoken to him since he walked out of the marriage when she was 15 - there was another woman involved but beyond that she does not elaborate.

She promptly left school, moved into her own studio flat in Stockport and worked four jobs (nightclub promotion, pizza delivery, gigging and a Saturday job at a hairdresser's) to try to support herself. 'I was a real ugly duckling and a tearaway,' she says. 'I had a spiral perm and dark hair and I was a bit wild, but I think a lot of that had to do with the upheaval.

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Party animal: Sarah Harding wears a dress by Marc Jacobs at Harvey Nichols, £1,070 (020 7235 5000)

'When my parents split up I felt like piggy in the middle and I wanted my own space and I guess I wanted to grow up too quickly. It was hard work. I was trying to provide for myself and it was a bit of a reality check. My mum was going through a really hard time and I feel bad now, for moving out, but I didn't really know how to cope with it. I just buried my head.'

There's a weariness and a sweetness about Sarah. She's not as tough as she looks, but she's been surviving by herself for so long that she wears slightly grubby invisible armour. At one point she became notorious for her boozing and boyfriends. She went out with her Popstars: The Rivals competitor, Mikey Green, for a couple of years and with Daily Star columnist Joe Mott for a year, as well as being linked with Liverpool footballer John Arne Riise, actor Stephen Dorff and Calum Best.

Anyway, she was out and about more than her bandmates. 'I was single,' she says. 'That's what you do when you're single. And I was finding my feet in London. I'm a lot more settled now but I'm a social animal. I'm trying to enjoy my youth.'

For the past 18 months she has been with Mahiki DJ Tom Crane. They live together in her flat in Camden, north London and plan to move to her house in Buckinghamshire when it is finished. She also owns a buy-to-let in Manchester.

'Tommy is like my best friend,' she says. 'I always knew he had a crush on me but I was seeing someone else [Joe Mott]. He was always going, "So when are you going to marry us, Harding?" And then my relationship broke down and me and Tommy clicked.'

She's happy with Crane but a bit grizzly today. 'We bicker constantly and drive each other crazy. It's straining sometimes. It's hard work going out with a DJ who comes in at five in the morning. I'm knackered a lot more.'

Perhaps the whole idea of settling down is just a bit unnerving for Sarah. 'I'm very career-driven and that's got to come first,' she says. 'If you're going to be married, you can't have a full-time career. That's when marriages break up. That's what I think, or what I've seen. Maybe I don't have much faith in marriage.'

She has found fame 'fickle'. One minute she feels that the band are accepted and credible, and the next she's a slapper and they are irrelevant. 'I think it's come together now but for ages it was like we were a guilty pleasure, and I still feel like I have to justify myself as a person but that's just force of habit. I feel more carefree now. I used to feel that I was under a lot of pressure and that does take its toll.'

She has always wanted to act and has recently finished shooting a Dominic Savage film for the BBC, Freefall, which also stars Alfie Allen and Dominic Cooper. Sarah plays Cooper's girlfriend. She wants to do more acting. 'I'm easing my way in,' she says. 'I don't want to be known as one of those popstars-turned-actresses. I don't want to be used as a cameo. I want to be a serious actress.'

Sarah is a very independent girl both through inclination and habit. I hope she finds some peace. She looks like she could sleep for a year. 'What I want to do is sit around the Aga in my house,' she says. 'But I haven't even got curtains yet.' To console herself, she's just dropped a thousand pounds in Vivienne Westwood because it's next to Daniel Hersheson, her hairdresser. 'I splurged,' she says guiltily, 'and I shouldn't have, what with three mortgages and Christmas and everything.'

But when you're in the most successful British girl band of all time and you've been working since you were 15, maybe you've earned the right to a bit of a splurge.

Monday, 5 January 2009

Surviving Gazza

Series 1 | Surviving Gazza

Paul's son Regan

Like thousands of other families in the UK, Sheryl and her children Mason, Bianca and Regan must cope with a loved one who has a life-threatening addiction. Documentary maker David Clews enters the Gascoignes' lives just as Paul is released after having spent six weeks sectioned under the mental health act.

But only a few days later, Paul has left the country and the family have no idea where he is. The frustrating phone calls they make to track him down reveal the heartache, chaos and fear that addicts' families face every day.

Sheryl is torn between letting go of a man who still dominates her life, and helping the troubled father of her children while they too grapple with conflicting and painful emotions as they struggle to understand the complexity of Paul's condition. Mason will do anything to help his father, but Regan has had enough.

Sheryl seeks the help of an addiction specialist to try and bring some stability to her family.

Addicted to an Addict


Monday 05 January 2009

Addiction Specialist - Tracy Towner

It is very common for families of addicts to experience what is commonly referred to a “co-dependency”. Co-dependency consists of behavioural patterns that are learned and can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioural condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. People with co-dependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive.


Characteristics of Co-dependency

Low self esteem and external referencing

  • Co-dependents can be addicted to relationships in the same way alcoholics use alcohol. They feel they have no meaning or self-worth in and of themselves and are worthwhile only in relation to someone else. Co-dependents may find it difficult responding to their internal feelings and perceptions and thus respond to external cues.

Clinging relationships

  • People in co-dependent relationships often feel they cannot survive without each other. No one functions independently. Although unhealthy, the co-dependent spouse often finds security in this type of relationship.

Lack of boundaries

  • Co-dependents may not see themselves as separate people with separate emotions and ideas. They are so externally oriented that they take on other people’s emotions, such as anger, as their own and do not recognise that this is happening. They do not know where they end and others begin.

Impression Management

  • Co-dependents may believe they can control others impressions of them. They constantly strive to present themselves as “good” people and always worry what others think of them.

Mistrust of perceptions

  • Co-dependents have low self-esteem and are externally oriented. As a result, they often become caretakers of others (such as substance abusers) and neglect themselves.

Addictions

  • It is common for co-dependents to develop chemical dependencies themselves or become addicted to such things as food, power or work.

Feelings

  • Co-dependents become so preoccupied in fulfilling the expectations of others that they lose touch with their own feelings. They allow themselves to experience only acceptable feelings such as compassion and to ignore negative feelings such as anger. In a chemically dependent/dysfunctional family, feelings often become frozen or totally ignored because the reality of the situation becomes too painful to address.

Steps Towards Recovery

There are four essential stages a co-dependent experiences in recovery. These closely parallel the recovery stages of a substance abuser.

Denial Stage

  • The co-dependent denies that a substance abuse or serious behavioural problem exists in the family. Consequently, the co-dependent denies that he is experiencing any individual problems.

Core Issues Stage

  • The co-dependent accepts that he is unable to control the behaviour of others and that successful relationships allow each person in the relationship to be independent.

Reintegration Stage

  • Co-dependents learn to believe that they are worthwhile in themselves and that being worthy is not something that must be “earned” through particular behaviour patterns or relationships with others.

Self Care

In addition to seeking professional treatment and working through the recovery stages with a trained therapist, co-dependents can take additional self-care steps to aid their recovery:

Detachment

  • Co-dependents can learn to separate themselves from unhealthy relationships with others in order to work on their own recovery

Removing the Victim Image

  • Co-dependents acknowledge that they are not victims and have the power to create positive change.

Independence

  • The co-dependent learns to trust himself and realize that he can care for himself without help from others.

Living Your Own Life

  • Co-dependents begin to focus on themselves and their own goals instead of focusing exclusively on others.

Accepting Reality

  • The co-dependent acknowledges and accepts the problems in his life in order to begin solving them.

Saturday, 15 November 2008

Dannii Minogue

Dannii Minogue on Simon Cowell's vanity, how Sharon reduced her to tears, and her rivalry with Cheryl Cole

By Rebecca Hardy
Last updated at 11:00 PM on 14th November 2008

Dannii Minogue: The X Factor judge says she and Cheryl don't hang out - but that she remains fond of Simon
Dannii Minogue: The X Factor judge says she and Cheryl don't hang out - but that she remains fond of Simon

Dannii Minogue For the chop? Dannii Minogue, seen here at The National Television Awards last week, could be in her final year as an X Factor judge


Dannii Minogue is waving her fork around during lunch in a west London gastropub as she lays into Simon Cowell. Simon, you see, has let slip that 'pretty much everyone' he knows uses Botox. Pretty much everyone, that is, except the newest, youngest, shiniest addition to The X Factor judging panel, Girls Aloud's Cheryl Cole.

Now, Cheryl and Dannii have... well, let's call it 'history'. Dannii, 37, dismissed Girls Aloud as 'chavs'; Cheryl, 25, mocked Dannii's cosmetic surgery. Dannii is now indignant that Simon seems to have sided with the new girl.

'He's got more Botox in his body than anyone on TV ever. The fact that he should comment about that...' Dannii fumes, stabbing a piece of cod. Besides, she points out, she doesn't do Botox anymore. She pushes up her fringe, shows me her forehead and frowns.

'It changes your face - you can see that with Simon. Did you see the TV awards? [Cowell recently won the Special Recognition Award at the National Television Awards.]

In the footage they went back to his Pop Idol days, and I think it's hilarious the amount he's changed over the years. But he seems to be pretty open about it. I liked his answer when he was asked what he would take to a desert island if he could only have one thing. He said, "A mirror, otherwise I'd miss myself". He means it. He's that vain. He loves himself - he really does. And he's very honest about it. He says, "If I'm not going to say I'm great, who else is?" You can only admire that, and that's why people love him.'

His girlfriends? Dannii laughs so much she almost chokes on her fish. These days, she's a dab hand at the Punch and Judy slapstick that has made The X Factor such a must-watch.

The morning we meet, there have been reports she's going to be dumped from the next series. Apparently, Cheryl has usurped her in the younger, prettier stakes. When I put this to her, plucked eyebrows meet in a genuine frown. 'Look, nobody's safe,' she says. 'Louis Walsh left, then he came back. I don't run the show, so I'll accept whatever happens - but I'd love to be there. As far as I know it's just a silly story.'

What about Cheryl? Are the suggestions of rivalry between them silly, too? 'Cheryl and I don't hang out outside work, and in the studio we're all very competitive. The judges are as much a part of the reality TV as the contestants. I try to stay away from the media hype - I go to work and do my job, but I understand that it gets everyone talking.'

Whatever she may feel about Cheryl, Dannii is actually rather fond of Simon Cowell. He was, after all, 'incredibly supportive' last year when a series of catfights erupted between her and queen judge Sharon Osbourne.

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Dannii has stopped the Botox to reveal an extraordinarily expressive face

Louis sided with his old mucker Sharon, amid rumours that they regularly reduced Dannii to tears. She's relieved that the nastiness has ended following Sharon's departure from the show. 'Last year I had the best fun on the show, but there were ups and downs with Sharon,' she says.

'The hardest thing, having been such a fan of the show and the judges, was thinking, "Oh my God, I'm going to meet Sharon Osbourne" - then I walked into the room and she hated me. There was nothing I could do to change that, and it continued for the whole series. For ages I was asking myself, "What have I done wrong?" But the answer was just being there on the show and being female.'

It didn't help that Dannii also happens to be extremely pretty. I first interviewed her years ago when she was fresh from Australia and divorced from Nip/Tuck actor Julian McMahon, who also happened to be the son of a former Australian prime minister.

Botoxed from the scalp down, in those days she seemed brittle, plastic - the surgically-enhanced kid sister trying to keep in step with superstar Kylie.

Today, a decade older, she's much softer. I'm struck, not by the frozen pantomime face, but by her extraordinary eyes that seem to change colour depending upon her mood, one minute green, the next blue, but always empathetic.

Dannii is, in truth, an emotional woman, the sort who wears her heart on her sleeve. She always has been, but it's easier to know what she's thinking now she's stopped the Botox. For instance, when I mention her new squeeze, former Leeds Rhinos rugby league player Kris Smith, 30, her face lights up like a Christmas tree.

'I met him on holiday in the summer in Ibiza. I certainly wasn't looking to be with someone younger. But you meet someone, you like them... Let's just say I'm happy.' She beams. I wonder about marriage and children.

Following her divorce in 1995, she was engaged to French-Canadian racing driver Jacques Villeneuve. 'For me, having children is an extension of being with someone, loving them and bringing children into a happy environment. All the headlines about Kylie and me - "unhappy in love", "desperately single" - that's not how we are. Of course, when you're single you think, "I'd love to share my life with someone." That's how I've always been. My dream would be to be with someone I love to be with, but it has to be the right person.'

It would be nice to see Dannii happily settled. She has, after all, been through the mill in the past few years. Firstly, her sister was diagnosed with breast cancer, quickly followed by her best friend, who died of the disease at the age of 36.

With model and actor Julian McMahon on their wedding day

With model and actor Julian McMahon on their wedding day

'Kylie was on tour in Australia when she found out she had cancer and I was in London,' she says. 'It was awful being so far away and trying to get on the first plane home before the news hit the headlines. Unfortunately, it didn't work out that way and I was chased, like a hunted animal, by the media. It was extremely distressing.

'I don't see Kylie as my famous sister. We're just two girls in a family. We all wanted to protect her and for her to get better. It was difficult to have the world looking in on something private, analysing and assessing it.

'There are always moments in your life when you throw your hands up and say, "Why?", even though you know you're not going to get an answer. It never crossed my mind that Kylie was going to do anything other than get better. There was no way I could think of anything other than that. I just thought, "We've got to make her better."

'You start dipping into parts of your personality you weren't aware of before, because you'd never needed that sort of strength. There was a two-year period where it was just all hospitals and medical talk. Some days it was a real challenge. The treatments are exhausting and long. There are lots of questions - lots of new information every day. You don't know what's going on.

'Some days you get up and think, "I can't deal with this any more. I want to escape." Your mind plays tricks. You just have to be strong. Sometimes you glide through the difficult days; other times you think, "There's no way I'll make it to the end of the day." But you get on with it and you get through it.'

Kylie was nearing the end of her treatment when Dannii's close friend, whom she'd known for ten years and whose name she won't reveal, died. Her death so affected Dannii that, until recently, she's found it impossible to talk about her. Even now, she's often moved to tears.

'There was a period where she was in hospital undergoing treatment and there was hope. Then there was this sudden realisation that she was never going to come out of hospital.

Going there every day and seeing her being so brave was something else. I know now that not everything goes the way you want it to, but what's important is how you deal with those things.' How did she? 'I don't know. I'm still trying to work that out. I'm still trying to understand why my friend died. I still don't.'

Inspired by her friend and sister, Dannii has become involved in raising funds for the Olivia Newton-John Cancer and Wellness Centre Appeal, and took part in a sponsored walk along China's Great Wall earlier this year.

Not only did Dannii fulfill a lifetime's dream meeting her childhood idol, but Olivia, who is herself in remission from breast cancer, also asked her to work as an ambassador for her charity. 'Some days I don't even want to acknowledge that cancer exists,' she says. 'But on this walk I wanted to confront everything I've been through.'

Posing nude for Australian Playboy in 1995: It sold out in four days and was one of the top-selling issues ever

Posing nude for Australian Playboy in 1995: It sold out in four days and was one of the top-selling issues ever

Dannii is certainly made of steely stuff. She's been performing since she was seven and, in tough times, pulls her shoulders back and thinks, 'eyes, tap, teeth' - get out there, tap dance and smile.

She was appearing as a judge on Australia's Got Talent when Cowell saw a video of the show and thought she'd be great for The X Factor. 'Like most people, work is my escape. It helps take your mind off unhappy things. I didn't have a partner at time, which was hard. Even though I had my family around me, I've always been able to throw myself into my work.

'And Simon was a very good friend. When I joined The X Factor, I never thought I'd experience the nastiness I did. I understand that it was hard for Simon, Sharon and Louis to adjust to there being a fourth judge. But I was put there to make a difference to the show. I just didn't think it would have such a negative effect.'

But Sharon and Dannii are said to have had several furious behind-the-scenes rows, as well as one particularly heated on-screen confrontation, which resulted in the British star storming off the show. Sharon also claimed that Dannii was only on the show because she was younger, prettier and that Simon fancied her.

Dannii continues, 'the arguing really rocked Louis as well. He was upset because Sharon was. He was a really good friend of hers and sided with her. He said a lot of awful things about me last year. There were times when he seemed to be always getting at me, and I had to tell him to stop.' In fact, in one programme, Mrs Osbourne was seen chuckling as Louis poked fun at Dannii's singing ability.

'This was all happening backstage. It wasn't hyped. When you had Sharon appearing on Graham Norton's TV show talking about her hatred for me, and then I had to face her at work the next day, it was really hard.' Did they make her cry? 'Yes,' she says. 'I'm strong, but I can fall to pieces just like most people. I tried to get through it in private and deal with it in my own way. But I wasn't strong every day. Yes, it did upset me. Some days Sharon was nice to me and other days she wasn't.

'In the end we just stayed as far away from each other as we could. Obviously, the headlines were fantastic for the show, but I was honest to Simon. I said, "This is very difficult, very scary. How do I get through this?" He knew I was still dealing with losing my friend.'

Cowell gave Dannii confidence and taught her how to advise her singers. Last year, she mentored Leon Jackson, who went on to win the competition, and this time she has the over 25s. She says she remains fiercely competitive and protective of her proteges. But there have been reports that one of her acts, 26-year-old Rachel Hylton, has threatened to fire her mentor because she feels that Dannii is not giving her the right songs.

'We haven't fallen out,' she says. 'There has never been any discussion that Rachel wants to leave Team Minogue.' And then there's Daniel Evans, whose wife, Jacqueline, died last year after giving birth to their daughter. When I suggest that the 38-year-old crooner is only hanging in there on the sympathy vote, she starts waving that fork about again.

'He's still here,' she snaps back. 'It's amazing to work with someone who's been through so much. Louis and Simon are trying to get rid of him. Sometimes, I don't like to see it. I've said to the guys, "There's being constructive and there's being nasty". But Cheryl's going to be the one to beat this year. All the girls in her category are strong, and she's doing an incredible job.'

So all those stories about more fireworks among the judges, particularly Dannii and Cheryl, aren't true, then? She frowns in mock exasperation. 'Because of what happened last year, there's bound to be an interest in how we all get on. But I seem to give the answers people don't want. I've been through it before, when I first came to Britain. There were all these headlines that Kylie and I mustn't be getting along because we were in the same business.

'Funnily enough, that only stopped when Kylie was diagnosed with cancer. People saw that I loved her. She's my sister. I would do anything for her. It's just a pity they didn't listen to me when I said it before.'

The X Factor is on Saturday evenings on ITV1.

DANNII MINOGUE: A LIFE IN PICTURES

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From left: A teenage Dannii practises her poses for the camera; Dannii and Kylie showing early promise; as a fresh-faced actress on Home & Away

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From left: Celebrating the release of her hit single 'This Is It'; on a fundraising walk in London; at a dress rehearsal for the Royal Variety performance

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From left: Attending the Australian version of the Brit awards; just-divorced Dannii sees if blondes have more fun; promoting her sell-out Unleashed tour of Britain

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Left, at the film premiere of 'As Good As It Gets', and right, with her co-judge Cheryl Cole on the X Factor

Here's what readers have had to say so far. Why not add your thoughts below?

A very interesting read about an inspiring woman! I love watching her on X Factor every week.

- Tom, Manchester, UK, 14/11/2008 23:21

Yeh but, Danni is fabulous and although Cheryl is beautiful she does does not have the sane attraction.

And I think Cheryl is wonderful

- Russell, Dorset, UK, 15/11/2008 0:40

She has every good reason to be jealous of Cheryl who is gorgeous!!!!

- Hazel Anne Larmour, Newtownards,N.Ireland, 15/11/2008 1:08

Danii should just age gracefully for a change

- Keith Price, Luton, England, 15/11/2008 1:08

She looks absolutely NOTHING like in earlier pictures, in fact I think she looks worse, sculpted, skinny, botoxed,fake, tucked and lipoed ! She should have stuck to being 'eau natural' she looked much prettier.
I have an old video from the Brit Awards and I would never have recognised her !

- Deb, Dorset, 15/11/2008 1:17

Yawn, what is she famous for again? Go back to Australia.........

- Jemima, Sheffield, 15/11/2008 1:25

I don't know why they all have it in for Danni I like her on the show.

- Heather, Lancaster, 15/11/2008 1:49

Lovely Dannii seems to be the most genuine of them all.

- Pamela, Hatfield UK, 15/11/2008 2:05

I like Dannii, not quite as much as Kylie, but she is ok - all this wrangling is to boost the ratings and hope for some on air spat between the girls. I am not sad that Mrs O, or the alleged Mother to the nation, is no longer on the juges panel. They are all paid very well for their contributions to the show, lest we forget. If I hated someone, I would still smile sweetly for the odd million quid. This is a money making machine, carefully executed and well orchestrated, cras, but worth watching, just for a laugh. It is always fun, thinking which comments will be used, what disease the contestants will have this week, who thinks their life will end if they are voted out, who is singing for their Mum, who wants to give their family a better life, a visit back to school, for the primed kids to cheer right on cue. Simon is certainly no fool and to be fair, he does a lot of work for animal charities, giving away large sums of money, so that gets my approval.

- Daniel, Lancashire, 15/11/2008 2:37

Danni is gracious and talented, she has always carried herself with dignity and we love her for it. Botox or not... who cares.

- James, Sydney, Australia, 15/11/2008 2:38

no wonder danni minogue is mentor for daniel and rachel , the three of them have something in common with eahc other.. they all want sympathy votes.. first with Danni its her failed marriage to julian mcmahon. then with Xfactor oh poor danni ,, sharon osbourne doesnt like her. then how she is going to get kicked off the X factor. now how cheryl is simons davourite and how ehr and cheryl dont get on... Danni have you ever thought it may be something to do with you... not every one else... for god sake get over it ...why dont you go do something constructive like pantomime you would be good in that

- pam gibbons, larnaca cyprus, 15/11/2008 6:25

A really good piece Rebecca. An interview like this shows Dannii in a very different light to the Dannii of the tabloid headlines. I think there is a lot to be admired about the lady. It seems she was just an innocent victim of "Hurrican Sharon", a girl in the wrong place at the wrong time. All credit to her for weathering the storm and coming out strong.

- terry hyatt, mansfield, uk, 15/11/2008 7:29

What is she actually good at?

- malcolm, cambridge, 15/11/2008 8:01

Dannii seems like a nice girl who just wants to work. Stop trying to create rivalry where there is none.

- meme, Leeds, 15/11/2008 8:27

It has become fashionable now for women in their 30s,40s and 50s to go out with much younger men,something they certainly know will almost certainly not last,but at least they have fun.Whatever age of your partner you choose it does not last anyway,you have a child or two and move on.Maybe they just accept the inevitable and relax.

- Gail, Bucks, 15/11/2008 8:54

Why is she a judge on a singing competition? How can she advise others when her own singing career has never taken off?

- sasha, london, 15/11/2008 8:54

Danni has gotten more gorgeous and sexy as she's gotten older. And she has oodles more talent and intelligence than Cheryl.

- steve the poacher, Lincoln, UK, 15/11/2008 9:23

Botox or no botox, she still looks plastic!

- Nathalie, Manchester, UK, 15/11/2008 9:31

What a waste of space in this paper, Yes I know its what the young public want to see , and there was me thinking there'll always be an England
D Penney

- DAVID PENNEY, Plymouth, devon, 15/11/2008 9:55

Danni Get over yourself its all part and parcel if you cant stand the heat stay out of the kitchen. Personally I'm sick to death of the lot of you, all I'm interested in are the contestants. Not you bickering infertile foursome. I'D LIKE TO SEE YOU ALL DO A DISSAPERING ACT EXEPT FOR SIMON and get a panel in that are there for the contestants and not play one off against the other Louis should be ashamed of himself .And your last Saturday show was a disgrace Laura should never in a million years been sent of some kind of fix comes to mind.

- spriggles, Brighton East Sussex, 15/11/2008 9:55

I think they should all stop bickering amounst themselves and get on with the job they are there to do.. Thats Judge not make the show all about them.

- Jacqui Weems, Southampton, 15/11/2008 10:26

Tuesday, 11 November 2008

Meet 'The Family': A new reality

Meet 'The Family': A new reality

After the attention-grabbing antics of programmes like Big Brother, can a deliberately low-key reality show captivate the nation? And should it even try? Robert Hanks reports

Wednesday, 17 September 2008

A mother at 18 and grandmother at 39, Jane showers her kids with affection but seems increasingly perturbed by the loss of her youth

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A mother at 18 and grandmother at 39, Jane showers her kids with affection but seems increasingly perturbed by the loss of her youth

In the summer of 2002, the journalist Ron Suskind met a senior adviser to George W Bush to discuss an article he had written that displeased the White House. In the course of their talk, the adviser explained that he, Suskind, was part of "the reality-based community", who believed that solutions to problems emerge from the "judicious study of discernible reality"; this, the adviser informed him, was a mistake: in the new dispensation "we create our own reality".

In retrospect, that conversation seems very zeitgeisty. Though the White House man was talking specifically about the extent of American power – and at this point in history, I probably don't need to rub in the irony – the idea that reality is something you create rather than observe was evidently in the air. Hence the seemingly bizarre term "reality television" for programmes that worked by placing people in highly artificial, often stressful situations and watching them struggle to cope. These programmes have dominated television schedules, and the imaginations of the people who draw them up, for years: Big Brother, Survivor, Faking It, Wife Swap, I'm a Celebrity, Get Me Out of Here!, The Apprentice, The Secret Millionaire... Meanwhile, the old-fashioned documentary, the kind that involves trying to capture ordinary life on camera as it happens, was pushed to the sidelines.

On the surface, The Family, which starts an eight-week run tonight on Channel 4, looks like a return to first principles, quite consciously returning to territory pioneered by Paul Watson in his 1974 BBC series of the same name. Back then, Watson and his camera crew spent three months, 18 hours a day, filming the Wilkins family of Reading – Margaret, Terry and their children Gary, Marian, Heather and Chris; the resulting series, broadcast over 12 weeks, gained audiences of 10 million, made a star out of Margaret, and filled the columns of the press with controversy. Many thought – as Watson intended they should – that this was an extraordinary moment of liberation: for the first time, television was showing us people like ourselves, leading fractious, untidy, imperfect lives. For others, including Mary Whitehouse, the Wilkinses were a terrible example to the nation, with their foul language and loose living (Marian was, shockingly, allowed to live at home with her boyfriend). Margaret and Terry's divorce, shortly afterwards, was widely taken as evidence of the destructive power of television, though Margaret remained friends with Watson until her death, last month.

This time around, the cameras are trained on the Hughes family of Canterbury: Simon and Jane, and their four children, Jessica (who lives down the road with her fiancé and their year-old baby), Emily, Charlotte and Tom. They were filmed for 100 days, using 21 tiny cameras dotted around their semi-detached house. The director this time is Jonathan Smith, whose CV includes a Bafta for Make Me Normal (2005), a serious and very moving film for Channel 4 about a school in south London for autistic children; and he has explicitly disavowed any ambition to jazz things up, praising the Hugheses as "pretty unremarkable" and "an antidote to some of the larger-than-life characters we see on television today."

But in many ways, this stab at filming the family is very different. Some of the differences reflect the way society has changed: in particular, you notice just how much better off the Hugheses are than the Wilkinses were. Where the Wilkinses were poked into a small flat, the Hugheses' house is spacious and cluttered with desirable stuff – CDs, soft furnishings, hatboxes, antiques – which reflects, in part, the extraordinary material comfort that most of us enjoy compared with previous generations. But there have also been important shifts in the way film-makers approach their material. In theory, every new advance in filming technology should allow film-makers to achieve a closer approximation to reality – smaller cameras let them get closer, without obtruding on the scene; digital storage lets them film for longer. In fact, it's been the cash machine all over again: cash machines were supposed to give bank staff more freedom to attend to customers' needs; instead, they gave banks more freedom to sack staff. There is a danger here that new video technology, rather than allowing us to transcend familiar narratives, has made the narratives easier to control.

At any rate, it's hard, watching The Family (2008) to resist the sense that you are being told what to think. An introductory voiceover informs you that Emily, 19, is "the wild child", that Charlotte, 17, is "the clever one"; Tom, 14, gives little snatches of scripted-sounding narration, explaining that his mother is depressed – she says because Emily goes out so much, "but I think it's more than that." Music is used to add emotional resonances – at one point, a recording of Neil Diamond singing "Sweet Caroline" plays over the household's early morning preparations, timed so that the climactic line "Touching me, touching you" matches Simon and Jane's goodbye embrace as he sets off to work.

Of course, documentary makers always shape their material, always editorialise, even when they're trying not to; a recognition of that is implied in John Grierson's famous definition of documentary, "the creative use of actuality". Watson himself acknowledged in an interview a couple of years ago that, as a "boring young lefty", he had an agenda when he made The Family (1974). To some extent, the changed emphasis of Smith's film reflects changes in the nation: we are far less interested in politics than we were 34 years ago, in the era of the Three-Day Week, power-cuts, earth-shaking conflicts between government and unions. The Family (2008) is much more soft-centred – the Hugheses are a very affectionate family, in which the parents may scream at the children (mainly Emily, who screams back with equal force), but they also lark about, dance, sing, and cuddle with them; Simon, in particular, is a modern father, very different from the Seventies models, cooking meals and offering warmth rather than discipline.

It goes further than political apathy, though: the fixed cameras mean that The Family (2008) is weirdly shorn of context – we don't find out, at least in the first episode, what the job is that Simon is setting out for, or what Jane does, or where the children are at school, or who their friends are; we don't even have much sense of what time of year it is. The family, the message seems to be, is the be-all and end-all. But the effect is strangely like watching the inmates of the Big Brother house. That's not coincidental: the whole filming set-up, with fixed cameras wired to an editing suite in the house next door, is based on Big Brother. The Family (2008) is a valuable and, I'm sure, honestly intended portrait of modern life; but its limitations prove that whether we like it or not, reality TV has changed the way we view reality for ever.

'The Family' starts tonight at 9pm on Channel 4